Do I hate myself?

You know it's a tragic thing to watch. Someone projecting their feelings onto someone they claim to love, all because they are unable to tune into themselves. They have no idea how "toxic" they are and they continue to ridicule, tear down and belittle their significant other in order to feel better about themselves. Has this every happened to you? Did you wake up one morning and realized that you were being used as an emotional punching bag to support someones self-loathing habit? When you love yourself, you talk kindly to yourself as well as others. You treat yourself well and you take care of yourself. What has this pandemic taught you about loving yourself and treating yourself kindly? How do you love on yourself?